“So, now your videos helped me to understand the process of adhesions and to become more gentle and kind with my belly which obviously is part of me and to try to work with “her” and not against “her”, as things are what they are because there is a reason for it. . .”
This came in a very long email from a person in Portugal who bought and started using the Abdominal Adhesion Videos. This person has years of history with adhesions and I was so inspired by this email because it means that one of the (to me) most important parts of self-care is coming across in the videos. What I am so excited about is that there is a relationship, a real, dynamic relationship being built between this person and their belly.
In general, when we are in pain we tend to try to push the pain aside and not look too closely at it because we are afraid of it, because we don’t want to make it worse by “messing” with it. But the reality is that pain and disfunction are often intrinsically messy and one of the ways we can most effectively help ourselves is to embrace the mess and fear and discomfort. If we embrace it then we can still be friends with ourselves and the pain area – we can still see ourselves and the pain area clearly – even as we are frustrated and scared and wishing it would all go away.
I think in general, the more we alienate the pain and the body part feeling the pain, the more trouble we cause ourselves in the long run. But not alienating ourselves takes a certain kind of calmness about what is happening. Often the genesis of that calmness is simply more clear information about what is happening. I am just so inspired that my work on the videos has helped even one person start that process.